A lot of you guys ask me about my fitness tips and diet tips that you could try out for yourself. I get this, because bouncing back from having a baby really takes a lot of effort and time (don’t rush into it)! But one of the things I feel most people overlook in their quest of having a sound body, is having a sound mind, too.
Mindfulness is one of my mantras for this year, and I really want to take it seriously. I don’t know if this is because I watched Tidying Up with Marie Kondo on Netflix with some fascination–I mean, the end of the first episode really made me cry! But this show also made me think about the way I approach my life, and evaluate whether I am truly focused and in the moment, as well as figuring out really sparks joy for me.
More than making sure my environment sparks joy, I want to be more mindful and deliberate with my life moving forward, and that involves making a few small changes to keep me on the right track to a happier frame of mind. If you want to try it too, here’s what’s currently working for me.
Decluttering is a buzzword at home right now! I really want to look at my closet and home with a critical eye and get rid of stuff I haven’t maximized. Chard has joked that thanks to this, he might end up with, like, 5 basketball jerseys and nothing else! Haha. But in all seriousness, it’s definitely not a bad idea to sell or donate things that could be loved better by other people, and this is exactly what we plan to do soon.
Yoga is one of the main things that has helped me to stay focused and start the day on a good note. Chard and I do 15 minutes of yoga in the morning, and Zion joins us sometimes! We use courses and videos from DailyOm.com, and just follow along at home. Sometimes we also have an hour-long yoga session with our teacher at home. We’ve noticed a difference in the way we’re prepared mentally for the day ahead.
Another big change I’ve made to help my mental health is to reduce my screen time. I turned on my screen time downtime to keep off my phone from 10pm to 7am. Being on my phone is mostly for me to work, but sometimes it’s just noise and a distraction. With my screen off, I can focus on being involved in my family’s bedtime/early morning routines and getting a better night’s sleep instead of constantly scrolling on social media.
When I’m feeling overwhelmed, I do my best to carve out some time to meditate. Headspace has been my go-to app for a while now, since it’s great that you can basically meditate anywhere with the help of your phone. I’ve been using this app since I was pregnant, and until now, it helps me get rid of all the unnecessary noise around me.
But when I’m feeling really drained, I’ve found that nothing keeps me more sane than sharing quiet moments with my kids. On long days, Zion and I will read a book together before bedtime. Or I’ll just snuggle with Kai for a while.
A big part of mindfulness is allowing yourself some self-love. You need to have moments to yourself so that you are able to truly focus and be in the present for other moments in your life. I know this is really difficult when you’re juggling work, motherhood, and whatever else you have going on, but you owe it to yourself to feel refreshed in small things. With me, it’s as simple as getting my nails done, having my lash extensions retouched, or getting a massage. I try to take care of myself in the midst of our work schedules and the kids’ needs. I need to be stable and happy for me to give the best care and love my kids deserve.
At the end of the day, the whole concept and way of going about of mindfulness can be very personal. So what works for me might not necessarily work for you. But the end goal is always similar: to feel less stressed, feel better, and be kinder towards yourself.
I hope you take this journey with me! We will all have our different ways of being kind to ourselves. I’m curious: how do you take care of yourself? Do you have a special ritual or activity? Let me know in the comments below! 🙂